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What Ashley is writing about here is true healthy partnership. xx

"Instead of looking for a love partner, I’m looking for a shadow partner to birth true devotional love.

Someone who has reverence of the brevity of life and the understanding that without getting excited to lean into partnership as divine teachers of our blind spots and traumas, we will just feed the Wetiko and keep whining about how she did this and he did that.

Reinforcing polarization and victimhood, I have done it and I’m done, it’s truly unsexy as much as blame, shame and perpetual avoidance of conflict and willingness to transform together is.

That’s where real love is built, through the foundry where each partner is truly desiring to support their other in rising into divine radiance.

It doesn’t happen by spiritual bypassing and only focusing on love and light.

It happens by each partner understanding that every trigger is an opportunity for integration, individuation and embodiment.

That’s why I call them a shadow partner.

Not because we’re endlessly looping in samsara drama or not feeding the container with beauty and presence, but because we’re equally in pursuit of divine Union, first within ourselves and with each other.

My work has been taming my anger so I don’t project my wounding when I feel absolutely violated and exploited.

My work has also been getting real honest about where I still been hiding from the shadow of my fear of abandonment.

My work has been about becoming more tender and not entitled to shame when I’m angry.

It’s all about erecting firm boundaries and listening to my inner gnosis, discerning if the person has the tools and capacity to meet me in the same regard as I desire.

It’s that simple and it requires tremendous humility and trust in ourselves.

Thank goddess for a strong community.

I don’t role with friends who reinforce my victimhood, I role with warriors who call me out and show me my shadow so I may understand and love them back into wholeness.

I refuse to collude with anything less, within or without, as those people will only perpetuate the cycle of suffering.

All of the above means transparency, honesty, responsibility and the radical courage to see that the inferno gets the hottest before the philosophers stone is birthed.

Love.

Circa 2021" Ashley Aurora

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Kelfin Oberon's avatar

ONLY HELP WHO ASKS YOU

Never get involved in someone else's suffering, everyone carries their own burden.

The man must tire of himself and drink to the bottom the cup of poison that was assigned to him, and until then, if he asks for help, he will approach.

Don't be cocky and don't expect to be able to help everyone, never force your guardians to provide something that will not be valued, it is only possible to help those who are prepared and humble to accept the help that comes from your heart.

A suffering person sees the world through their pain, so they are deaf, blind, unbelieving and selfish.

If you intervene in someone else's suffering without being called and being prepared, the karmic vortex will suck you into someone else's game, and you will see the face of ingratitude, as well as carrying the bad energy of the other.

Remember that man is capable of infecting his suffering and that will not help you. Proceed your way by resolving your own life in silence.

Only if you are making your own path will you find the strength and wisdom necessary to help people get up.

(On the picture, a lady healer healing a little girl’s heart from fear. An owl guardian watching. Whenever we do healing or help for someone, we must have a permission from our higher self/great spirit, and from the person’s higher self/great spirit, and from the person. There are exceptions with very small children, elderly, people in coma etc. But even then we must ask higher self for permission.)

Lu Ka

Shamanic Heart Healing

www.shamanic-heart-healing.org

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