What Ashley is writing about here is true healthy partnership. xx
"Instead of looking for a love partner, I’m looking for a shadow partner to birth true devotional love.
Someone who has reverence of the brevity of life and the understanding that without getting excited to lean into partnership as divine teachers of our blind spots and traumas, we will just feed the Wetiko and keep whining about how she did this and he did that.
Reinforcing polarization and victimhood, I have done it and I’m done, it’s truly unsexy as much as blame, shame and perpetual avoidance of conflict and willingness to transform together is.
That’s where real love is built, through the foundry where each partner is truly desiring to support their other in rising into divine radiance.
It doesn’t happen by spiritual bypassing and only focusing on love and light.
It happens by each partner understanding that every trigger is an opportunity for integration, individuation and embodiment.
That’s why I call them a shadow partner.
Not because we’re endlessly looping in samsara drama or not feeding the container with beauty and presence, but because we’re equally in pursuit of divine Union, first within ourselves and with each other.
My work has been taming my anger so I don’t project my wounding when I feel absolutely violated and exploited.
My work has also been getting real honest about where I still been hiding from the shadow of my fear of abandonment.
My work has been about becoming more tender and not entitled to shame when I’m angry.
It’s all about erecting firm boundaries and listening to my inner gnosis, discerning if the person has the tools and capacity to meet me in the same regard as I desire.
It’s that simple and it requires tremendous humility and trust in ourselves.
Thank goddess for a strong community.
I don’t role with friends who reinforce my victimhood, I role with warriors who call me out and show me my shadow so I may understand and love them back into wholeness.
I refuse to collude with anything less, within or without, as those people will only perpetuate the cycle of suffering.
All of the above means transparency, honesty, responsibility and the radical courage to see that the inferno gets the hottest before the philosophers stone is birthed.
Never get involved in someone else's suffering, everyone carries their own burden.
The man must tire of himself and drink to the bottom the cup of poison that was assigned to him, and until then, if he asks for help, he will approach.
Don't be cocky and don't expect to be able to help everyone, never force your guardians to provide something that will not be valued, it is only possible to help those who are prepared and humble to accept the help that comes from your heart.
A suffering person sees the world through their pain, so they are deaf, blind, unbelieving and selfish.
If you intervene in someone else's suffering without being called and being prepared, the karmic vortex will suck you into someone else's game, and you will see the face of ingratitude, as well as carrying the bad energy of the other.
Remember that man is capable of infecting his suffering and that will not help you. Proceed your way by resolving your own life in silence.
Only if you are making your own path will you find the strength and wisdom necessary to help people get up.
(On the picture, a lady healer healing a little girl’s heart from fear. An owl guardian watching. Whenever we do healing or help for someone, we must have a permission from our higher self/great spirit, and from the person’s higher self/great spirit, and from the person. There are exceptions with very small children, elderly, people in coma etc. But even then we must ask higher self for permission.)
“We think that if we just meditated enough or jogged enough or ate perfect food, everything would be perfect. But from the point of view of someone who is awake, that’s death. Seeking security or perfection, rejoicing in feeling confirmed and whole, self-contained and comfortable, is some kind of death. It doesn’t have any fresh air. There’s no room for something to come in and interrupt all that. We are killing the moment by controlling our experience. Doing this is setting ourselves up for failure, because sooner or later, we’re going to have an experience we can’t control: our house is going to burn down, someone we love is going to die, we’re going to find out we have cancer, a brick is going to fall out of the sky and hit us on the head, somebody’s going to spill tomato juice all over our white suit, or we’re going to arrive at our favorite restaurant and discover that no one ordered produce and seven hundred people are coming for lunch.”
The trick is to keep exploring and not bail out, even when we find out that something is not what we thought. That’s what we’re going to discover again and again and again. Nothing is what we thought.
Things are always in transition, if we could only realize it. Nothing ever sums itself up in the way that we like to dream about. The off-center, in-between state is an ideal situation, a situation in which we don’t get caught and we can open our hearts and minds beyond limit. It’s a very tender, nonaggressive, open-ended state of affairs. To stay with that shakiness—to stay with a broken heart, with a rumbling stomach, with the feeling of hopelessness and wanting to get revenge—that is the path of true awakening. Sticking with that uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic—this is the spiritual path.
Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”"
It's great, it's like the decoding of the bible through the kabbalah. Lilith is eves shadow self. Eve is naieve and kept in the dark about man's true nature on the flip lucifer the light bearer is supposed to be Adams shadow cast from heaven for wanting to be to much like God. I then there's the crucifixtion of man's consciousness at golgotha. Self Un aware of the Peter pans yet fully grown. It's a scary world for females. Great piece thanks for sharing
What Ashley is writing about here is true healthy partnership. xx
"Instead of looking for a love partner, I’m looking for a shadow partner to birth true devotional love.
Someone who has reverence of the brevity of life and the understanding that without getting excited to lean into partnership as divine teachers of our blind spots and traumas, we will just feed the Wetiko and keep whining about how she did this and he did that.
Reinforcing polarization and victimhood, I have done it and I’m done, it’s truly unsexy as much as blame, shame and perpetual avoidance of conflict and willingness to transform together is.
That’s where real love is built, through the foundry where each partner is truly desiring to support their other in rising into divine radiance.
It doesn’t happen by spiritual bypassing and only focusing on love and light.
It happens by each partner understanding that every trigger is an opportunity for integration, individuation and embodiment.
That’s why I call them a shadow partner.
Not because we’re endlessly looping in samsara drama or not feeding the container with beauty and presence, but because we’re equally in pursuit of divine Union, first within ourselves and with each other.
My work has been taming my anger so I don’t project my wounding when I feel absolutely violated and exploited.
My work has also been getting real honest about where I still been hiding from the shadow of my fear of abandonment.
My work has been about becoming more tender and not entitled to shame when I’m angry.
It’s all about erecting firm boundaries and listening to my inner gnosis, discerning if the person has the tools and capacity to meet me in the same regard as I desire.
It’s that simple and it requires tremendous humility and trust in ourselves.
Thank goddess for a strong community.
I don’t role with friends who reinforce my victimhood, I role with warriors who call me out and show me my shadow so I may understand and love them back into wholeness.
I refuse to collude with anything less, within or without, as those people will only perpetuate the cycle of suffering.
All of the above means transparency, honesty, responsibility and the radical courage to see that the inferno gets the hottest before the philosophers stone is birthed.
Love.
Circa 2021" Ashley Aurora
ONLY HELP WHO ASKS YOU
Never get involved in someone else's suffering, everyone carries their own burden.
The man must tire of himself and drink to the bottom the cup of poison that was assigned to him, and until then, if he asks for help, he will approach.
Don't be cocky and don't expect to be able to help everyone, never force your guardians to provide something that will not be valued, it is only possible to help those who are prepared and humble to accept the help that comes from your heart.
A suffering person sees the world through their pain, so they are deaf, blind, unbelieving and selfish.
If you intervene in someone else's suffering without being called and being prepared, the karmic vortex will suck you into someone else's game, and you will see the face of ingratitude, as well as carrying the bad energy of the other.
Remember that man is capable of infecting his suffering and that will not help you. Proceed your way by resolving your own life in silence.
Only if you are making your own path will you find the strength and wisdom necessary to help people get up.
(On the picture, a lady healer healing a little girl’s heart from fear. An owl guardian watching. Whenever we do healing or help for someone, we must have a permission from our higher self/great spirit, and from the person’s higher self/great spirit, and from the person. There are exceptions with very small children, elderly, people in coma etc. But even then we must ask higher self for permission.)
Lu Ka
Shamanic Heart Healing
www.shamanic-heart-healing.org
"Pema Chödrön said this...
“We think that if we just meditated enough or jogged enough or ate perfect food, everything would be perfect. But from the point of view of someone who is awake, that’s death. Seeking security or perfection, rejoicing in feeling confirmed and whole, self-contained and comfortable, is some kind of death. It doesn’t have any fresh air. There’s no room for something to come in and interrupt all that. We are killing the moment by controlling our experience. Doing this is setting ourselves up for failure, because sooner or later, we’re going to have an experience we can’t control: our house is going to burn down, someone we love is going to die, we’re going to find out we have cancer, a brick is going to fall out of the sky and hit us on the head, somebody’s going to spill tomato juice all over our white suit, or we’re going to arrive at our favorite restaurant and discover that no one ordered produce and seven hundred people are coming for lunch.”
The trick is to keep exploring and not bail out, even when we find out that something is not what we thought. That’s what we’re going to discover again and again and again. Nothing is what we thought.
Things are always in transition, if we could only realize it. Nothing ever sums itself up in the way that we like to dream about. The off-center, in-between state is an ideal situation, a situation in which we don’t get caught and we can open our hearts and minds beyond limit. It’s a very tender, nonaggressive, open-ended state of affairs. To stay with that shakiness—to stay with a broken heart, with a rumbling stomach, with the feeling of hopelessness and wanting to get revenge—that is the path of true awakening. Sticking with that uncertainty, getting the knack of relaxing in the midst of chaos, learning not to panic—this is the spiritual path.
Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”"
It's great, it's like the decoding of the bible through the kabbalah. Lilith is eves shadow self. Eve is naieve and kept in the dark about man's true nature on the flip lucifer the light bearer is supposed to be Adams shadow cast from heaven for wanting to be to much like God. I then there's the crucifixtion of man's consciousness at golgotha. Self Un aware of the Peter pans yet fully grown. It's a scary world for females. Great piece thanks for sharing
written in 2012
Di Vision United Di Stance Equality Harmonics Di Lute'd.
The future N ever happens Now. It can not be.
The future had a heart attack and collapsed when the God Particle was found.
To be An Atheist made up of pagan faerie dust scattered from the witches broom
after heave N 's G ate slammed shut Ab out The Big Bang.
Hence the Right Mind already Left Wrong long ago.
The Future IS already Past.
A pack aged present to unpack one's expectations.
The Future was pre Ordained to fulfill de script ion.
When we have finally run out of Time, what will we finally run into ?